Hi Heather & Jeremy -
Like Tim and Sabrina - we haven't made up the nursery. For us, it's because we don't want a constant reminder that we aren't adoptive parents *yet*. We know it will happen, but we also know that it can be a long journey.
But if a completed room helps you focus and you would feel good being able to envision you and the baby in the completed room, then do that!
As for whether an expectant mother might want to see a completed room - that's a great question. Wonder if any successful parents have posted nursery photos and gotten positive feedback from their birthmother about that.
For coping - i have been slowly gathering a few baby things that we'll need - nothing too big (no furniture yet) and i keep them in the to-be-nursery's closet.
Homestudy completed, just waiting for that magical connection! Tim and Melissa 1-888-634-1142